DDating The Modern Cougar

WHAT MAKES A COUGAR WOMAN A COUGAR!

…Grabbing men’s butts in bars, throwing their leg over a man’s shoulder in public to demonstrate their “flexibility” and acting out like junior high school girls is not why younger men are drawn to older women. Treating men like sex objects in an effort to “be equal” to men who have treated women like sex objects for so long does not raise our bar. It lowers it to the same level of base behavior that we detest.

Younger men who have experience dating older women know that this is not true Cougar behavior and in no minced words, they let me know how disgusted…yes, disgusted…they are that this is the way Cougars are being portrayed by the media. It gives all women a bad label and makes women who are on the fence about becoming a Cougar feel that this stereotype is how they must behave in order to fit the profile. I see women in public “trying” to be a Cougar. It is obvious they are trying because they don’t look comfortable in the (animal print) skin they are wearing. Some of them even try to dumb down to the level of younger men by being trendy, talking hip and using the same lingo instead of having the man up his game and elevating him to her level. It doesn’t look good on them and it isn’t working.

A younger man who is really sincere about meeting and dating Cougar women do so because mature women are not like the twenty somethings he is used to meeting. These men are bored with girls who play games, only talk about themselves/hair/makeup and whine, and have no perspective on life. A true Cougar woman embodies years of self development, learning, perspective, wisdom and all the things that it takes to make a woman of any age well rounded.

This is an excerpt from Dr. Fayr Barkley’s Article, you can read it in full by clicking on the link below.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Dr._Fayr_Barkley,_Ph.D.

Kiss, kiss…

Shele Belle