DDating The Modern Cougar

Here’s the 2nd installment of Maree’s Cougar Diary….

Another surprise whilst I was up on the gold coast was that I met an 81 year old COUGAR.  That’s right you heard it.  I went out walking very early one morning towards surfers and had lost my way and asked for directions from this very elegant lady.  We started talking and she told me that she was on her was to the casino to meet her man.  I asked her how old he was.  She started to laugh uncontrollably and whispered in my ear “he’s only 51”.   My mouth dropped to my feet.  I gave her the biggest hug and said to her “You’re a COUGAR”… she giggled cheekily and said “yes I am”.  I told her that I am also a COUGAR. We had the best conversation and best giggles and laughs.  She also mentioned that back in her time, that it was a sin to be a COUGAR, but today she’s letting it all hang out.  WOW!!  I asked her why she didn’t date men her age.  She said that they were all very boring and ‘not great in bed’.   Just love her attitude and her love of her life and her freedom to do and be who she wants without judgements.  As we were crossing the road, she grabbed my arm and leaned in and said to me… “don’t ever let other’s judge you…because it is their own stupidity that stops them from embracing their own life the way it’s meant to be…they’re just jealous”.

That same morning I also met up with another friend of mine who lives on the gold coast and works as a stripper.  I popped into his place for a coffee.  We chatted for a while.  And he again said to me, that the younger boys all say the same thing.  That COUGARS are so much easier to talk to.  We have no hang ups.  We are in control of our wants and needs.  And the biggest one of all is that, we are not shy in the bedroom and allow ourselves to evolve and escape in the moment of passion.  We are not afraid to take control nor do we take control off them.  We are fun spontaneous cheeky and go with the flow.   Oh and let’s not forget, we are not clingy nor jealous.  Having said all that, as a COUGAR I find the same with the younger boys, hence why we seem to attract each other.  And yes had the craziest sex with my muscly gorgeous 25 year old stripper guy who new exactly which buttons to push and how to push them.  The passion was taken everywhere from the dining table, coffee table, kitchen bench tops, the staircase, the lounge room floor through to the bed and finally in the shower.  What I love the most about young muscly guys is that they can lift me up with no effort or struggle and pull me in without me holding on.   His stamina, energy and craziness of just devouring me in every which way, just keeps bringing back those tingles.

Keep your eye out for part 3 coming real soon!!!

xxx Shele Belle

Are you HOT or Are you Not…

This ones for the younger men… find out how cougarized you are when it comes to dating cougar women.  Click on the link below to take part in the survey.

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xxx Shele Belle

How do you Woo Cougars?  The answer may depend on how you make your demands.

A staggering number of younger men are using social media networks like face book, twitter and online cougar dating sites in a bid to hook up with cougar women and for 90% of these younger men it just isn’t working and they go from one place to another in search of what alludes them – the cougar woman.

This is a classic case of not knowing how to approach cougar women.  What I mean is that it’s all in the way you make your demands.  Sure it’s easy to put yourself out there and make new friends, but when it comes to actually interacting in a way that’s appealing to cougar women, or any woman for that matter, it’s a completely different ball game.

There are two kinds of ways people communicate.  Your either an Asker – like that annoying acquaintance, who has no problem in requesting things – first dates, promotions, pay rises, a discount on that highly overpriced pair of shoes… even if they know that their answer will be a big fat “NO”.  A Guesser on the other hand, takes a more circuitous route – not often making their request unless their absolutely sure that they’re going to get a yes.  And here’s the clincher, by thinking that they’re stealth enough, they can wend their way through the situation in a way that actually works in their favor and offers will be made before they even have to,  you know… ask.   To put it simply, you either ask or you coerce by way of suggestion.

The trouble is that Askers and Guessers are both running into problems when it comes to approaching cougar women.  When an Asker can prompt discussion when it hits at the heart of a cougars day to day interactions, on a deeply understandable level, she responds to him. But when his demands are more like a loaded gun, a cougar woman is sure to reject him.

Guessers can run the gammut from coy remarks to that of a more passive aggressive way to say everything about what you want without saying anything at all.  Either way it’s a recipe for frustration.  And it ruins things with cougar women, as they are being forced by younger men with poor social skills to interact and navigate their way through a minefield of awkward discussions.

The reality of course is that Askers and Guessers need to move fluidly through attracting a cougar women with their opening line into comfortably conversing with cougar women.  After all, the dynamics of everyday interactions demands it.  Askers have to amend their usual knock-em-out cold approach with some behavioral nuance, and Guessers must work at being crystal-clear.  The stakes are high, and the trick is in learning how to read cougar women, as well as the situations that they present to you.

To find out how to play it safe and woo cougars click here now.

xxx Shele Belle

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Just Friends with Benefits?

Friends with benefits.  Booty call.  F*#k buddy. Loosely involved.  There are a few terms for friends with benefits.  What does it mean?

We’ve all had casual sex.  Well, friends with benefits is just that.  Casual sex on a regular basis. Some people call it a non-relationship relationship, simply because it doesn’t go beyond being sexually entangled.  But, hey who ever said that friends with benefits would.  Sure, some men and women silently hope that it does, biding their time waiting for it to grow into a relationship relationship.

Friends with benefits are great when they are just that – friends with benefits.  When you’re both into it for the sex.  When other emotions arise, like jealousy, it’s probably time to have a serious look at why you’re with your friend and to what benefit is it really?

xxx Shele Belle

TRUTH -  OLDER WOMEN LOVE SEX

Dr. Dorree Lyn, author of Sex for Grownups, debunks the myths about sex and the older woman in this very informative article.

Myths she reveals include:

1. Older Women are lousy lovers.

2. Older Women don’t want sex as much as older men.

3. Older Women’s sex drive diminishes more quickly than older men.

4. Older Women don’t want oral sex.

5. Older Women don’t fantazise.

6. Older Women must have romance to have sex.

7. Older Women lose their vaginal sensitivity.

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xxx  Shele Belle

STAND UP AND PROUDLY PROCLAIM YOURSELF A COUGAR OR A CUB

“Come out of the closet and stop hiding who you are. Come out of the closet and stop being embarrassed, ashamed or afraid of letting people know you are a Cougar or a Cub.” said by Dr Fayr Barkley PhD.

To read more about Cougars and Cubs coming out of the closet click here now.

xxx Shele Belle

COUGARS LOVE SEX!!!

Why do older women lust is a question posed by many men, especially those older men who’ve traded in their Cougar aged partners for much younger year models.

A new journal article by the University of Texas suggests that evolutionary forces may contribute to push older women to be more sexual, although in unexpected ways. The theory explores why would women be more sexually active in their middle years than in their teens and 20s. Find out the answer to these questions and more here now.

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Shele Belle.

IS THE COUGAR PHENOMENON JUST A MYTH? “Yes I do believe the cougar phenomenon is a myth and, yes, (it is) a media construct,” Dr Dunn told AAP recently in an email. “Who benefits from this perpetuated myth? … this is mostly speculative but a clear beneficiary would be the ‘cougar’ or ‘toy-boy’ dating agencies themselves.” Have a look at Dr Dunn’s study findings for yourself and tell us what you think about it.

xxx Shele Belle