DDating The Modern Cougar

What do cougar women really think about???

If you think older women are a little dated, think again…

Since the dawn of the cougar woman, younger men have been expecting hot cougar sex when dating cougar women.  Now everyone knows that men in general think about sex a lot, and I do mean a lot. On the flip side, have you ever wondered what the modern cougar is thinking?

Consider for a moment if you will, one possible scenario of a typical day in the life of a modern cougar…

It’s a sultry evening, the fan in our cougar’s living room is whirring overhead.  A white T-shirt covers her naked breasts.  Satin knickers hug her supple cheeks.  Tanned legs stretch the length of her couch. She shifts a little and sinks further into the soft leather.  Light flickers from the TV screen in the darkness, licking at her bare skin.

She feels for the remote control that’s resting on her lap.  Her fingers brush against satin, tracing their way along the top of her thigh and come to rest upon cool hard plastic. She lightly presses a button and instantly the channel changes.  Her eyes widen, she tastes a hint of saltiness as she gently bites her bottom lip.  The strong image of the young male news reader appeared to jump out of the screen at her.

As she reaches for the light switch, her long loose waves blow across her face…

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xxx Shele Belle

Cougars… as you know… have that a certain thing.

After decades of being banished in the wilderness, cougar women everywhere are coming out of the bushes and staking claim to their heart-stopping sex appeal.  Truth is, cougars, although they’re a knock-out with their siren lips and killer heels, they are interestingly mysterious women who are perhaps the most sexually fearless of all older women as they are unafraid of being true to themselves, including their sexual desires.

There’s a lot squashed into the cougar package. They are down-to earth, honest and straight forward; intelligent, respectful and passionate. Oh; and of course… simply stunning.  And that’s just part of their appeal to the younger man.  Because cougar women want to be seen, it really is easy for younger men to fall in love with them.

And now to that all important “Cougar Factor”, make no mistake, cougars are not born smokin’ hot, they’re made.  When it comes to being a cougar woman, there are some practical skills that must be learned and executed with ease for being the most desirable of women on the planet.  Only the most confident of older women can pull off the leopard dress, and a cougar is it!

xxx Shele Belle

Your mission – should you choose to accept it – is to come out as a Modern Cougar Woman.

Why Come Out of the Closet: Flirting with the idea of embarking on your own Cougar Escapades?

There are plenty of older women who find themselves whilst dating younger men.  It’s as though they’ve been swimming in the wrong waters and it’s been pulling their spirits down. It’s not until they give themselves permission to trust their own inner sensibilities that they are able to be free to explore their desires.

Not that cougar dating always runs smooth, especially if one has experienced disappointment or betrayal (in other words, just like most of the adult population who has ventured into relationships) and is somewhat inclined to bump into heaps of emotional baggage along the way to self liberation.

Here’s the curious thing about cougar dating – it’s not passing time as many older men think, it’s a swooping passion akin to first love (something that they may longer experience unless it’s with a much younger woman).  It seems all the more precious when one knows the meaning of loss. That doesn’t necessarily mean that modern cougar women are needy (although what is neediness, other than a longing of unfilled desire), but it does however stop them from taking things for granted.

With cougar dating comes risk; the stakes seem to be higher when you are old enough to know the consequences of your actions. There are other benefits to being older, and hopefully much the wiser: is the inescapable consequence of facing up to yourself.  For it’s at these personal crossroads where one is forced to learn from the mishaps and mistakes of youth, as well as its untamed pleasures, and then take heart in discovering life-changing episodes during one’s thirties and forties which can be a catalyst to finding a truer self identity.

Life can be far too short. So when you find what makes your spirit dance and your heart sing, you mustn’t be scared of it.  To fear your desires is to fear life. And when you fear life, you’re already three parts dead.

xxx Shele Belle

Today, I have a guest writer for you who is sharing some simple yet effective tips for the younger man to attract a cougar woman.

1. Don’t be Afraid to Ask

If you are unsure about whether an older woman may be interested in dating a younger man – try a polite, harmless but very obvious flirt. At the very worse, the likelihood is she will be really flattered by the attention. With any luck, you may find it more successful than you ever imagined it could be.

2. Chose your Location

Try and socialise in bars and clubs where there is a mixed crowd in terms of age.

Then you will feel more at ease and still have plenty of opportunity of meeting the cougar of your dreams. Trendy bars that are only populated by 20-something hipsters may put her off.

3. Advertise Yourself

There are sites out there that cater for cougars and cubs – join one. Make sure you include a flattering but recognisable photo and add some details that outline your interests and personality. Come across as a genuine, honest and likeable guy and you will have the cougars queuing up.

4. Underplay the Age Gap

Never make a big issue about the age gap. It is probably not something she wants to be reminded of too often, so leave that subject well alone and concentrate on the things you do have in common.

5. Be Willing to Learn

An older woman may well have a good deal of experience in the bedroom and know exactly what she likes. There is no harm in asking for directions – she may want you to take the lead but then again she may have so much more attracted to you, if you can demonstrate that you are really interested in her needs.

6. Return the Compliment

She could well be thrilled to have a fit, younger man and let you know it. Do remember to repay any compliments – the hotter she feels the better it is for both of you. Also, do be sensitive to the fact she might need a little extra reassurance.

7. Show Some Sophistication

A cougar can be attracted to younger men but may not love all the habits that might come with them. Show your best side – grubby sweatpants and scruffy t-shirts may be a turn-off to a classy cougar. Designer suits aren’t necessary but do make sure you look good and smell great – a sexy, sophisticated, older woman may not be prepared to slum it!

by Oliver Jameson,  founder of the free dating site for cougars, http://www.cougared.com

COUGARS LOVE SEX!!!

Why do older women lust is a question posed by many men, especially those older men who’ve traded in their Cougar aged partners for much younger year models.

A new journal article by the University of Texas suggests that evolutionary forces may contribute to push older women to be more sexual, although in unexpected ways. The theory explores why would women be more sexually active in their middle years than in their teens and 20s. Find out the answer to these questions and more here now.

xxxx

Shele Belle.

Real Cougars Know They Are A Great Catch

Encouraged by Madonna and Demi Moore, increasing numbers of women are dating younger men. But what’s in it for the toy boys? Oscar Humphreys, 22, explains the appeal.

Recently I came across this article ‘Confessions of a Toyboy/Cub’ in the telegraph and am so excited about it that I just wanted to share this young mans experiences with you.  Click here now and see what a toyboy/Cub gets up to.

Kiss, kiss…

Shele Belle

WHAT MAKES A COUGAR WOMAN A COUGAR!

…Grabbing men’s butts in bars, throwing their leg over a man’s shoulder in public to demonstrate their “flexibility” and acting out like junior high school girls is not why younger men are drawn to older women. Treating men like sex objects in an effort to “be equal” to men who have treated women like sex objects for so long does not raise our bar. It lowers it to the same level of base behavior that we detest.

Younger men who have experience dating older women know that this is not true Cougar behavior and in no minced words, they let me know how disgusted…yes, disgusted…they are that this is the way Cougars are being portrayed by the media. It gives all women a bad label and makes women who are on the fence about becoming a Cougar feel that this stereotype is how they must behave in order to fit the profile. I see women in public “trying” to be a Cougar. It is obvious they are trying because they don’t look comfortable in the (animal print) skin they are wearing. Some of them even try to dumb down to the level of younger men by being trendy, talking hip and using the same lingo instead of having the man up his game and elevating him to her level. It doesn’t look good on them and it isn’t working.

A younger man who is really sincere about meeting and dating Cougar women do so because mature women are not like the twenty somethings he is used to meeting. These men are bored with girls who play games, only talk about themselves/hair/makeup and whine, and have no perspective on life. A true Cougar woman embodies years of self development, learning, perspective, wisdom and all the things that it takes to make a woman of any age well rounded.

This is an excerpt from Dr. Fayr Barkley’s Article, you can read it in full by clicking on the link below.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Dr._Fayr_Barkley,_Ph.D.

Kiss, kiss…

Shele Belle

COUGAR CONVENTION BRISBANE HIGHLIGHTS

Cougars are renouned for their dating prowess, and when they see ‘that cub’ they are not shy in coming foward.  Unlike their counterparts, the younger woman; the cougar woman has freed herself from outdated sexual concepts to embrace her sexuality.  Spend at least 5 minutes in conversation with acougar and you’ll be surprised by her vigorous intellect, her amazing satisfaction with life and her profound joy when her self-expression is received in the right way.

The Cougar Convention in Brisbane was the perfect platform for cougar women to publically make their debut and be proud of who they are.

Take a peek into the cougar women dating revolution with Ann, by clicking play on the audio.

Kiss, kiss…

Shele Belle