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Your mission – should you choose to accept it – is to come out as a Modern Cougar Woman.

Why Come Out of the Closet: Flirting with the idea of embarking on your own Cougar Escapades?

There are plenty of older women who find themselves whilst dating younger men.  It’s as though they’ve been swimming in the wrong waters and it’s been pulling their spirits down. It’s not until they give themselves permission to trust their own inner sensibilities that they are able to be free to explore their desires.

Not that cougar dating always runs smooth, especially if one has experienced disappointment or betrayal (in other words, just like most of the adult population who has ventured into relationships) and is somewhat inclined to bump into heaps of emotional baggage along the way to self liberation.

Here’s the curious thing about cougar dating – it’s not passing time as many older men think, it’s a swooping passion akin to first love (something that they may longer experience unless it’s with a much younger woman).  It seems all the more precious when one knows the meaning of loss. That doesn’t necessarily mean that modern cougar women are needy (although what is neediness, other than a longing of unfilled desire), but it does however stop them from taking things for granted.

With cougar dating comes risk; the stakes seem to be higher when you are old enough to know the consequences of your actions. There are other benefits to being older, and hopefully much the wiser: is the inescapable consequence of facing up to yourself.  For it’s at these personal crossroads where one is forced to learn from the mishaps and mistakes of youth, as well as its untamed pleasures, and then take heart in discovering life-changing episodes during one’s thirties and forties which can be a catalyst to finding a truer self identity.

Life can be far too short. So when you find what makes your spirit dance and your heart sing, you mustn’t be scared of it.  To fear your desires is to fear life. And when you fear life, you’re already three parts dead.

xxx Shele Belle

TRUTH -  OLDER WOMEN LOVE SEX

Dr. Dorree Lyn, author of Sex for Grownups, debunks the myths about sex and the older woman in this very informative article.

Myths she reveals include:

1. Older Women are lousy lovers.

2. Older Women don’t want sex as much as older men.

3. Older Women’s sex drive diminishes more quickly than older men.

4. Older Women don’t want oral sex.

5. Older Women don’t fantazise.

6. Older Women must have romance to have sex.

7. Older Women lose their vaginal sensitivity.

Click here to read more.

xxx  Shele Belle

Encouraged by Madonna and Demi Moore, increasing numbers of women are dating younger men. But what’s in it for the toy boys? Oscar Humphreys, 22, explains the appeal.

Recently I came across this article ‘Confessions of a Toyboy/Cub’ in the telegraph and am so excited about it that I just wanted to share this young mans experiences with you.  Click here now and see what a toyboy/Cub gets up to.

Kiss, kiss…

Shele Belle