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WHAT IS IT TO BE A MODERN COUGAR WOMAN?

The Cougar Code Revealed

What’s in a name? To paraphrase Shakespeare, that which we call as an urban myth, by any other name would smell so sweet.  It is hard to believe that Cougar, a name associated with a ravenous predatory creature of the wild, could also become synonymous with the allure of maturity, yet everything about women who have a past, who have lived, and who definitely know who they are (an acronym for Confident Older women who are Unique individuals with a Go-getter Attitude that is not Repressed) is so counterintuitive, that it’s hard to imagine them being called anything else. After all, modern cougar women are anything but conventional.

They say that forty is the new 30 and 50 is the new 40 – in that case, it really is a cougars world ripe for the picking.  Modern cougar women are realizing that they can get so much more out of life.  By the time you’re reached 40, you feel so much more self-assured without the need to impress.  You feel the value in who you are.

Modern cougar women live by a code – the cougar code. Are you serious I hear you say… yes!

There’s more to being a cougar than what everyone thinks. It’s not about the sex.  It’s about “Honoring Thyself.”  Oh no, I hear you gasp, it’s not about the sex.  Modern cougar women love nothing more than honoring their primal sexual desires.  Remember, that cougars are proven to out perform even the youngest of women when they let their wild side come out to play. And that’s something that they don’t take lightly.  Modern cougars need to have balls of steal to stand up and go get what they want in life because being a cougar is a double-edge sword.

Modern cougar women have an indefinable human quality that vacillates between impulse and premeditation.  If it’s on a cougar’s mind and not on her face, it’s always in her actions.  And that’s compelling because it’s so honest.

“Most people are other people; their thoughts are someone else’s, their lives a mimicy, their passion a quotation.” Oscar Wilde.  This cannot be said of the modern cougar because of the cougar code – “Honor Thyself.”

Cougars, ROAR like you’ve never roared before!

xxx Shele Belle

Now for the Million Dollar Question… What Really is a Cougar?

Like most cougar women, I’ve heard some awful definitions as to what a cougar is.  Even now, just thinking back on some of them, makes my skin crawl.

There are however, some unshakable certainties that pertain to cougar women. Like the fact that cougars are essentially sexual creatures who simply do not need the reassurance of a man to confirm their sexuality for them.

As I scanned the nets media reports and ezines, I thought to myself what about women’s magazines, so I flicked through their glossy pages and a picture began formulating, one where I just couldn’t figure out as to why masses of people (men and women) could seriously believe in the trend of thinking about cougar women. Let alone how like magic, the definition of what a cougar is, has become roaringly popular.

So, for your viewing pleasure, here’s my spin on “What is a cougar?”

C  – confidently knows who she is and what she wants.

O  – out of pubescent tendencies.  No screamers here, unless of course it’s in the bedroom.

U  – unique independent older woman who’s fearlessly living life by her own rules.

G  – generous in lavishing her chosen cub with playful attention.

A  – got The attitude Baby!

R  – r u free tonight.

As they say, you only live once, and cougars are certainly living for today.

xxx Shele Belle

Who will be voted the Hottest Cougar in Australia’s Cougar Capital?

The Gold Coast has been acclaimed as Australia’s Cougar Capital and Sea Fm are celebrating hot cougar women with the search for the sexiest cougar who can bring young men to their knees.

Sea Fm have searched the Gold Coast and narrowed it down to 10 sizzling Finalists!

Click here right now to preview all the finalists and vote for your favorite cougar woman.  You may even be the lucky winner of  tickets to the cougar party and see your cougar crowned this Saturday the 8th April.

xxx Shele Belle

Your mission – should you choose to accept it – is to come out as a Modern Cougar Woman.

Why Come Out of the Closet: Flirting with the idea of embarking on your own Cougar Escapades?

There are plenty of older women who find themselves whilst dating younger men.  It’s as though they’ve been swimming in the wrong waters and it’s been pulling their spirits down. It’s not until they give themselves permission to trust their own inner sensibilities that they are able to be free to explore their desires.

Not that cougar dating always runs smooth, especially if one has experienced disappointment or betrayal (in other words, just like most of the adult population who has ventured into relationships) and is somewhat inclined to bump into heaps of emotional baggage along the way to self liberation.

Here’s the curious thing about cougar dating – it’s not passing time as many older men think, it’s a swooping passion akin to first love (something that they may longer experience unless it’s with a much younger woman).  It seems all the more precious when one knows the meaning of loss. That doesn’t necessarily mean that modern cougar women are needy (although what is neediness, other than a longing of unfilled desire), but it does however stop them from taking things for granted.

With cougar dating comes risk; the stakes seem to be higher when you are old enough to know the consequences of your actions. There are other benefits to being older, and hopefully much the wiser: is the inescapable consequence of facing up to yourself.  For it’s at these personal crossroads where one is forced to learn from the mishaps and mistakes of youth, as well as its untamed pleasures, and then take heart in discovering life-changing episodes during one’s thirties and forties which can be a catalyst to finding a truer self identity.

Life can be far too short. So when you find what makes your spirit dance and your heart sing, you mustn’t be scared of it.  To fear your desires is to fear life. And when you fear life, you’re already three parts dead.

xxx Shele Belle

There’s nothing like screeching through the narrow streets of Prague in your Volkswagon Golf R, tearing around at top speeds past recognizable landmarks with a hot cougar woman as your co-driver.  But what’s that, I hear you say?  You don’t own a bad ass car, or even have a cougar girlfriend?

Click play on the video to find out how you can have both… the car and the cougar!

Here’s the 2nd installment of Maree’s Cougar Diary….

Another surprise whilst I was up on the gold coast was that I met an 81 year old COUGAR.  That’s right you heard it.  I went out walking very early one morning towards surfers and had lost my way and asked for directions from this very elegant lady.  We started talking and she told me that she was on her was to the casino to meet her man.  I asked her how old he was.  She started to laugh uncontrollably and whispered in my ear “he’s only 51”.   My mouth dropped to my feet.  I gave her the biggest hug and said to her “You’re a COUGAR”… she giggled cheekily and said “yes I am”.  I told her that I am also a COUGAR. We had the best conversation and best giggles and laughs.  She also mentioned that back in her time, that it was a sin to be a COUGAR, but today she’s letting it all hang out.  WOW!!  I asked her why she didn’t date men her age.  She said that they were all very boring and ‘not great in bed’.   Just love her attitude and her love of her life and her freedom to do and be who she wants without judgements.  As we were crossing the road, she grabbed my arm and leaned in and said to me… “don’t ever let other’s judge you…because it is their own stupidity that stops them from embracing their own life the way it’s meant to be…they’re just jealous”.

That same morning I also met up with another friend of mine who lives on the gold coast and works as a stripper.  I popped into his place for a coffee.  We chatted for a while.  And he again said to me, that the younger boys all say the same thing.  That COUGARS are so much easier to talk to.  We have no hang ups.  We are in control of our wants and needs.  And the biggest one of all is that, we are not shy in the bedroom and allow ourselves to evolve and escape in the moment of passion.  We are not afraid to take control nor do we take control off them.  We are fun spontaneous cheeky and go with the flow.   Oh and let’s not forget, we are not clingy nor jealous.  Having said all that, as a COUGAR I find the same with the younger boys, hence why we seem to attract each other.  And yes had the craziest sex with my muscly gorgeous 25 year old stripper guy who new exactly which buttons to push and how to push them.  The passion was taken everywhere from the dining table, coffee table, kitchen bench tops, the staircase, the lounge room floor through to the bed and finally in the shower.  What I love the most about young muscly guys is that they can lift me up with no effort or struggle and pull me in without me holding on.   His stamina, energy and craziness of just devouring me in every which way, just keeps bringing back those tingles.

Keep your eye out for part 3 coming real soon!!!

xxx Shele Belle

Today, I have a guest writer for you who is sharing some simple yet effective tips for the younger man to attract a cougar woman.

1. Don’t be Afraid to Ask

If you are unsure about whether an older woman may be interested in dating a younger man – try a polite, harmless but very obvious flirt. At the very worse, the likelihood is she will be really flattered by the attention. With any luck, you may find it more successful than you ever imagined it could be.

2. Chose your Location

Try and socialise in bars and clubs where there is a mixed crowd in terms of age.

Then you will feel more at ease and still have plenty of opportunity of meeting the cougar of your dreams. Trendy bars that are only populated by 20-something hipsters may put her off.

3. Advertise Yourself

There are sites out there that cater for cougars and cubs – join one. Make sure you include a flattering but recognisable photo and add some details that outline your interests and personality. Come across as a genuine, honest and likeable guy and you will have the cougars queuing up.

4. Underplay the Age Gap

Never make a big issue about the age gap. It is probably not something she wants to be reminded of too often, so leave that subject well alone and concentrate on the things you do have in common.

5. Be Willing to Learn

An older woman may well have a good deal of experience in the bedroom and know exactly what she likes. There is no harm in asking for directions – she may want you to take the lead but then again she may have so much more attracted to you, if you can demonstrate that you are really interested in her needs.

6. Return the Compliment

She could well be thrilled to have a fit, younger man and let you know it. Do remember to repay any compliments – the hotter she feels the better it is for both of you. Also, do be sensitive to the fact she might need a little extra reassurance.

7. Show Some Sophistication

A cougar can be attracted to younger men but may not love all the habits that might come with them. Show your best side – grubby sweatpants and scruffy t-shirts may be a turn-off to a classy cougar. Designer suits aren’t necessary but do make sure you look good and smell great – a sexy, sophisticated, older woman may not be prepared to slum it!

by Oliver Jameson,  founder of the free dating site for cougars, http://www.cougared.com

STAND UP AND PROUDLY PROCLAIM YOURSELF A COUGAR OR A CUB

“Come out of the closet and stop hiding who you are. Come out of the closet and stop being embarrassed, ashamed or afraid of letting people know you are a Cougar or a Cub.” said by Dr Fayr Barkley PhD.

To read more about Cougars and Cubs coming out of the closet click here now.

xxx Shele Belle

COUGARS LOVE SEX!!!

Why do older women lust is a question posed by many men, especially those older men who’ve traded in their Cougar aged partners for much younger year models.

A new journal article by the University of Texas suggests that evolutionary forces may contribute to push older women to be more sexual, although in unexpected ways. The theory explores why would women be more sexually active in their middle years than in their teens and 20s. Find out the answer to these questions and more here now.

xxxx

Shele Belle.