What do Aussie Cougar Women want?
Aussie Cougars are a whirlwind of Sass & Style.
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Your mission – should you choose to accept it – is to come out as a Modern Cougar Woman.
Why Come Out of the Closet: Flirting with the idea of embarking on your own Cougar Escapades?
There are plenty of older women who find themselves whilst dating younger men. It’s as though they’ve been swimming in the wrong waters and it’s been pulling their spirits down. It’s not until they give themselves permission to trust their own inner sensibilities that they are able to be free to explore their desires.
Not that cougar dating always runs smooth, especially if one has experienced disappointment or betrayal (in other words, just like most of the adult population who has ventured into relationships) and is somewhat inclined to bump into heaps of emotional baggage along the way to self liberation.
Here’s the curious thing about cougar dating – it’s not passing time as many older men think, it’s a swooping passion akin to first love (something that they may longer experience unless it’s with a much younger woman). It seems all the more precious when one knows the meaning of loss. That doesn’t necessarily mean that modern cougar women are needy (although what is neediness, other than a longing of unfilled desire), but it does however stop them from taking things for granted.
With cougar dating comes risk; the stakes seem to be higher when you are old enough to know the consequences of your actions. There are other benefits to being older, and hopefully much the wiser: is the inescapable consequence of facing up to yourself. For it’s at these personal crossroads where one is forced to learn from the mishaps and mistakes of youth, as well as its untamed pleasures, and then take heart in discovering life-changing episodes during one’s thirties and forties which can be a catalyst to finding a truer self identity.
Life can be far too short. So when you find what makes your spirit dance and your heart sing, you mustn’t be scared of it. To fear your desires is to fear life. And when you fear life, you’re already three parts dead.
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Here’s the 2nd installment of Maree’s Cougar Diary….
Another surprise whilst I was up on the gold coast was that I met an 81 year old COUGAR. That’s right you heard it. I went out walking very early one morning towards surfers and had lost my way and asked for directions from this very elegant lady. We started talking and she told me that she was on her was to the casino to meet her man. I asked her how old he was. She started to laugh uncontrollably and whispered in my ear “he’s only 51”. My mouth dropped to my feet. I gave her the biggest hug and said to her “You’re a COUGAR”… she giggled cheekily and said “yes I am”. I told her that I am also a COUGAR. We had the best conversation and best giggles and laughs. She also mentioned that back in her time, that it was a sin to be a COUGAR, but today she’s letting it all hang out. WOW!! I asked her why she didn’t date men her age. She said that they were all very boring and ‘not great in bed’. Just love her attitude and her love of her life and her freedom to do and be who she wants without judgements. As we were crossing the road, she grabbed my arm and leaned in and said to me… “don’t ever let other’s judge you…because it is their own stupidity that stops them from embracing their own life the way it’s meant to be…they’re just jealous”.
That same morning I also met up with another friend of mine who lives on the gold coast and works as a stripper. I popped into his place for a coffee. We chatted for a while. And he again said to me, that the younger boys all say the same thing. That COUGARS are so much easier to talk to. We have no hang ups. We are in control of our wants and needs. And the biggest one of all is that, we are not shy in the bedroom and allow ourselves to evolve and escape in the moment of passion. We are not afraid to take control nor do we take control off them. We are fun spontaneous cheeky and go with the flow. Oh and let’s not forget, we are not clingy nor jealous. Having said all that, as a COUGAR I find the same with the younger boys, hence why we seem to attract each other. And yes had the craziest sex with my muscly gorgeous 25 year old stripper guy who new exactly which buttons to push and how to push them. The passion was taken everywhere from the dining table, coffee table, kitchen bench tops, the staircase, the lounge room floor through to the bed and finally in the shower. What I love the most about young muscly guys is that they can lift me up with no effort or struggle and pull me in without me holding on. His stamina, energy and craziness of just devouring me in every which way, just keeps bringing back those tingles.
Keep your eye out for part 3 coming real soon!!!
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COUGAR DIARY
Maree Jordon is once again titillating us with her Cougar Dating adventures. Catch up on what Maree has been up to since her last article.
“There is nothing more exhilarating than having the freedom, the experience and the love of life behind you which allows you ‘with no hesitation’ of stepping into unknown chartered adventurous waters. A four day trip to the gold coast was just that.
Yes I am known as a social butterfly who likes to party long and hard, but when you are in unknown territory something quite different and exciting comes over you…. the thrill of meeting new gorgeous people. In fact, you meet new gorgeous yummy fun young guys. On this particular night, I was in a popular gold coast nite club. Everyone was so friendly and partying like there was no tomorrow. I met an awesome young with ‘not a care in the world’ kinda 22 year old guy. We danced, laughed and had so much fun in the club with him and his friends. He was very funny and made me laugh with his quirky comments and personality. We all took the party back to his penthouse. We disappeared into the bedroom. I have never had so much fun and have never laughed so much with a guy in the bedroom. Allowing yourself to laugh and make crazy passionate love at the same time to someone is an experience I’ll never forget. He also told me he had never been with an ‘older’ woman before, and kept repeating now I know what all the hype is all about. He kept wowing throughout our moments together. Let me add he was quite a pocket rocket with so much vroom in him I didn’t want to leave. A gorgeous guy who now has become a friend for life….just in another state.
Another surprise whilst I was up on the gold coast was that I met an 81 year old COUGAR. That’s right you heard it.”
Stay tuned, there is more…
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Yes… oh yes! Cougar Power Rules!!!
Click play on the video below and find out what makes cougar women tick.
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There’s no denying that there’s always been a whiff of scandal about cougar women. You’d expect that the cougar’s story is done and dusted, but here’s the climax: scores of older women today are happily living their lives as Modern Cougars.
It’s a tad presumptuous to assume that modern cougars are the same as the women portrayed as cougars of yesteryear. Those older women that the cougar label was originally attached to were actually wrongly labeled. This came from a male perspective that older women in bars/clubs etc were seen as desperate and dateless and an easy sexual conquest for younger men. This perception was repeatedly portrayed throughout society by the media of the day and unfortunately for real cougar women of today this perception has stuck.
Times have changed and the modern cougar is all about the presence of a woman, the redefining of femininity by women themselves. It’s been all too easy for women to rest on their laurels, or be a tiny bit complacent, or in most cases, socially and domestically emancipated by predigested attitudes about how women should behave and feel, and discouraged from thinking for themselves. It is because of these attitudes, that every choice a woman makes (including who she dates) is therefore a measure of her power. But what happens here is that it sets the agenda for what’s acceptable, what’s cool, what’s sexy and a distortion of who women are.
The modern cougar is a strong and confident woman; she like to play, she dares, she’s a seductress, and she really doesn’t feel limited by society’s restrictive rules. The pendulum has swung in favor of women taking back their power as they are becoming self-appointed guardians of their own destinies. Its life events like that of divorce which are transforming and empowering women to reconstruct their lives on their own terms.
The modern cougar is a woman who knows who she is and goes for it. There is not one image of what a modern cougar is, and that’s the beauty of these older women. They’re strong characters that bear a striking similarity to the fearless feline: The Cougar. And it is these mature women who are bringing the strengths of the cougar into the 21st Century as they step away from all the media posturing, and whispered chattering’s of men who simply do not understand, usually because of their own insecurities which is reflected in their continual control and subjugating women in general. It is men such as these, young and old, that repel real cougar women. Whereas wanna-be cougars, and they are out there… they may have the look, but they haven’t got the attitude… are still caught up in the power play of their male counterparts where they’re wedged between that of an ornamental fantasy object or being an invisible bolster which props up our outmoded traditional society by keeping house and raising the kids.
Modern cougars are breaking the mold and embracing their rights to express a woman’s power as they see fit and this includes coming into their own sexuality. There’s no feeling of permanence and there is no notion of waiting for gratification because the future isn’t set in concrete. Life is simply too short not to enjoy every moment – every single day.
The reality of course, is that modern cougars are letting go of the feeling that they need to push themselves to do things that they don’t want to do – an impulse that has been linked to the feeling of not being ‘enough’. Meeting the modern cougar for the first time, for most people, is like staring at the sun. These are women who have hit their stride and are celebrating for big and small reasons.
For all the hype that surrounds cougar women, its evident how little many of us know about the real cougar woman.
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How do you Woo Cougars? The answer may depend on how you make your demands.
A staggering number of younger men are using social media networks like face book, twitter and online cougar dating sites in a bid to hook up with cougar women and for 90% of these younger men it just isn’t working and they go from one place to another in search of what alludes them – the cougar woman.
This is a classic case of not knowing how to approach cougar women. What I mean is that it’s all in the way you make your demands. Sure it’s easy to put yourself out there and make new friends, but when it comes to actually interacting in a way that’s appealing to cougar women, or any woman for that matter, it’s a completely different ball game.
There are two kinds of ways people communicate. Your either an Asker – like that annoying acquaintance, who has no problem in requesting things – first dates, promotions, pay rises, a discount on that highly overpriced pair of shoes… even if they know that their answer will be a big fat “NO”. A Guesser on the other hand, takes a more circuitous route – not often making their request unless their absolutely sure that they’re going to get a yes. And here’s the clincher, by thinking that they’re stealth enough, they can wend their way through the situation in a way that actually works in their favor and offers will be made before they even have to, you know… ask. To put it simply, you either ask or you coerce by way of suggestion.
The trouble is that Askers and Guessers are both running into problems when it comes to approaching cougar women. When an Asker can prompt discussion when it hits at the heart of a cougars day to day interactions, on a deeply understandable level, she responds to him. But when his demands are more like a loaded gun, a cougar woman is sure to reject him.
Guessers can run the gammut from coy remarks to that of a more passive aggressive way to say everything about what you want without saying anything at all. Either way it’s a recipe for frustration. And it ruins things with cougar women, as they are being forced by younger men with poor social skills to interact and navigate their way through a minefield of awkward discussions.
The reality of course is that Askers and Guessers need to move fluidly through attracting a cougar women with their opening line into comfortably conversing with cougar women. After all, the dynamics of everyday interactions demands it. Askers have to amend their usual knock-em-out cold approach with some behavioral nuance, and Guessers must work at being crystal-clear. The stakes are high, and the trick is in learning how to read cougar women, as well as the situations that they present to you.
To find out how to play it safe and woo cougars click here now.
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TRUTH - OLDER WOMEN LOVE SEX
Dr. Dorree Lyn, author of Sex for Grownups, debunks the myths about sex and the older woman in this very informative article.
Myths she reveals include:
1. Older Women are lousy lovers.
2. Older Women don’t want sex as much as older men.
3. Older Women’s sex drive diminishes more quickly than older men.
4. Older Women don’t want oral sex.
5. Older Women don’t fantazise.
6. Older Women must have romance to have sex.
7. Older Women lose their vaginal sensitivity.
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STAND UP AND PROUDLY PROCLAIM YOURSELF A COUGAR OR A CUB
“Come out of the closet and stop hiding who you are. Come out of the closet and stop being embarrassed, ashamed or afraid of letting people know you are a Cougar or a Cub.” said by Dr Fayr Barkley PhD.
To read more about Cougars and Cubs coming out of the closet click here now.
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COUGARS LOVE SEX!!!
Why do older women lust is a question posed by many men, especially those older men who’ve traded in their Cougar aged partners for much younger year models.
A new journal article by the University of Texas suggests that evolutionary forces may contribute to push older women to be more sexual, although in unexpected ways. The theory explores why would women be more sexually active in their middle years than in their teens and 20s. Find out the answer to these questions and more here now.
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